partysoft asked: "has anyone ever been afraid of going 2 a matinee showing of paul blart mall cop by themselves as opposed to with their same sex partner?" lololol, I find myself overwhelmingly sexually attracted to you, as is my wont as a filthy sexual person. a+ on that whole post btw

ok but i have to tell you right now that i won’t be sexually attracted to you until we have seen at least 3 adam sandler movies

also ty softy~

Lie still, sleep becalmed: Asexuals are not oppressed. There is no such thing as sexual privilege. And they aren't inherently queer. Get the fuck...

raumlet:

duskandshiver:

street-howitzer:

atroxalae:

wrong, wrong, and wrong

can somebody take this one on I do not have the energy

I dunno, Atroxalae. You summed it up perfectly.

I’m more than happy to, but it would be from someone who isn’t ace and hasn’t experienced…

hi there!! can you please elucidate for me as 2 “what the ace community deals with daily” because i am kind of scratching my head here. i don’t doubt that asexuals can encounter apprehension and sometimes even flagrant rudeness w/r/t their sexual orientation but what i am failing to grasp here is how “but you don’t have sex?????????? say whaaaa!!” is at all even a little bit congruous with what queer people deal with. y’all on tumblr seem to be laboring under the idea that being queer is this totally sacrosanct concept that is defined by people not “getting it” and those that say otherwise are terrible policing big bad jerx. as if being picked on, which is very unfortunate and everything!!, is somehow it’s own unique oppression. being queer less like parentsjustdontunderstand.mp3 and more like a system of institutionalized violence and injustice spanning pretty much forever.  
 
 
The ace community is oppressed, often by the queer community; 
 
ok again can you explain to me what oppression means in this context? b/c having people say “hey man you aren’t queer” isn’t really oppression. and, jsyk, the fact that you think this constitutes some evil tyranny within the queer community is totally laughable and overall indicative of the fact that you have never really experienced any prejudice for being queer and neither have most of the ppl u are championing.  
 
the queer community doesn’t exactly have a track record of imposing discriminatory policy and violence upon asexuals and their ilk. there isn’t really a looming threat of experiencing violence at the hands of queer ppl. are children taught growing up to hate asexuals? does the pastor down at the local parrish warn all of his sunday school class or whatever about the evils of not having sex with other people? has anyone ever been afraid of going 2 a matinee showing of paul blart mall cop by themselves as opposed to with their same sex partner? have scores of people been systemically murdered for being asexual? has anyone in the history of forever ever been executed for being asexual? is there any location on earth where not having sex w/ people in actually legislated against? i hope you will forgive me for cutting short here because really the manners in which queer ppl have been discriminated against is very expansive and i’m already on the verge of tl;dr. i mean i hate to break it to you but there aren’t these upper echelons of sexual people standing on your backs and commanding to you be sexually and/or romantically attracted other folks.  
 
also j/w do asexuals have any specific pejorative that has been applied to them in the past? or even in the present, really. like are there sexual people in the world who see you walking around not having sex w/ people and they get really fuckin incensed and starting lambasting you with all these not-sex-having specific words? i’ve always been kind of curious about this when the asexual spectrum claims to have any ties to the reclamation of the word “queer” 
 
so yeah, i’m sorry if your grandma is kind of confused when u tell her that you don’t do the nasty with your boyfriend or whatever. but as to this oppression asexual experience at the hands of queers? i hope you will forgive me if chuckle into my handkerchief.  
 
p.s. if you say “oppression olympics” again as that is a valid social justice oriented argument that isn’t frequently used by the majority to silence the minority i will literally travel to ur home under cover of darkness and fart in your mouth because jesus christ “oppression olympics” really  
 
Who needs to get the fuck over it, exactly? 
 
u 
 
SO FINALLY, in closing, what i am trying to communicate to u is that being queer does not, and never has, meant “not taken seriously”

like where did you even get that idea i am kind of shocked here wow

(Source: partysoft)

aha! rachel is a real person, i’ve found her facebook and she is very reportable!

shineandmultiply:

You dumb motherfucker. i send you a message of support and react by posting my whole name and email online? fuck you, nancy moran. have fun being banned from tumblr for harassment. god knows who you’ll whine about dr. who and cake to then.

GVH is still whining I see

genderbitch:

I really don’t see the point in engaging with one of the people who fucked up in that situation, class polices and believes enabling bigotry is “free thinking”. That really is a waste of my time that I could better spend elsewhere.

Other people are calling that person out on the class policing and the rest is such garbage that I doubt anyone else sees the point in bothering either. So I guess that closes that book.

hi genderbitch. i know you’re probably going to dismiss me the same way you dismiss your other detractors, especially because while i will obviously appear to be a sock (this being my first post) this is my first actual appearance on tumblr all together. i’ve finally taken the plunge because you’ve honestly made me p fucking angry and i feel the need to air grievances with tumblr sjws once and for all. anyways, moving on to what’s probably going to be a pretty long goddamn post.

you have no idea what class, classism, class policing and poorness actual are. it’s astonishing for someone such as yourself to lend yourself credence to these ideas while ignoring the basic foundations of the ideas themselves. i don’t really fault you for this, though, a lot of people are just as clueless as you are and that isn’t always a bad thing because it can be a difficult thing to understand.

the reason discussion of class in america is such a murky topic is because class in america is in a state of nonexistence. class boundaries in the united states have absolutely no widely agreed upon definition. middle class, lower class, upper class, working class, working middle class, upper middle class, etc. all of these mean absolutely nothing. those terms might be useful in determining social and cultural values and norms between the people who identify as such but w/e that’s totally irrelevant to the subject of class value. your class status is derived entirely by the class privileges that you receive based off of income, coexisting oppressions, area, circumstances (debt, etc). i’m not going to delve into the massive amount of privilege you wield because what i am trying to do with this post is clue you in on a great couple of ideas you do not understand and why “western poorness” as you have coined it is classist in and of itself. poorness, however, is a thing. poorness is a pervasive, global force that effects a helluva lotta people but not often the ones you and your ilk choose to discuss.

poorness can happen anywhere and poor people have a wide representation across many different people. poorness does not manifest when a person is in debt or otherwise financial crisis, receiving benefits, take out loans, lose your job, are unemployed or just struggling to make ends meet in some other capacity. poorness is not a descriptor used to mean, “lol i’m broke.” poorness is a real circumstance millions of people live in and experience in a myriad of different ways. what i want to express here is that, you can suffer under classism without being poor. please, if you read anything within this post, let it be that. unlike a great many of other -isms, the subject of class oppression is different in that it is suffered under varying degrees. for instance, people in the aforementioned circumstances (and more but we would be here all day if i tried to list the ways in which classism manifests itself) can suffer classism. they also, however, can oppress those further down the ladder while still remaining oppressed. once more for posterity, you do not have to be poor to be a subject of class oppression.

the poor are a largely invisible group made more so by people like you erroneously insisting that you are poor. by continuing to act as you do, with complete disregard for the actual institutional reality of poorness and classism, you take an active part in the oppression of the poor by continuing to marginalize them just as the class elite do. people already try to separate issues such as homelessness, farm workers, migrant laborers, child laborers, etc etc etc (again, i could go on for days) from the discussion within classism by looking at them as separate areas of discussion. these are some of the people who often suffer the hardest when held under the iron glove of institutionalized class oppression. these are the people that you slight and other when you refer to yourself as “western poor.” poorness in the western world is a big problem that is often ignored and by misrepresenting it and yourself you continuing to the problem.

it would be truly futile to touch on the issue of poverty in the developing world with you, however, it needs to be said that social justice has a heinous track record of blatantly ignoring the issues of people in the developing world. by honing in on the idea of “western poorness” as separate instance from the global poor you are blatantly highlighting the legacy of social justice’s ignorance of global issues. honestly, it is truly fucking bizarre to me and i can’t think of any way you could possibly do a better job of being oppressive.

please, if you respond to this do not do that thing you so often do where you say, “o_O; but i didn’t say…” “i never implied” and so on and so forth. because you have, genderbitch, you have been continually ignorant and unable to own your class privilege. actually please don’t include o_O; in your post at all it’s really dumb~! anyways, this isn’t a localized instance, i’m referring to ideas that you have perpetuated for a long time. that is what this post is about so i don’t care to hear you try to dismiss any of the things i am lobbying you with. this isn’t about either of our own identity politics, this is about what classism and poorness are and are not. this is me trying to educate you so that you won’t do any more harm than you have done already.

lastly, before you throw “class policing” at me, please know that class policing is an actual thing. an actual thing that refers to the class elite oppressing those beneath them by maintaining an order which prohibits and disparages the poor (and those otherwise oppressed by the wealthy) from moving up or making better for themselves. really, you should stop doing that.